Health and Wellbeing

Intimate relationships

While at University you may well enter into relationships with others and these can be exciting and rewarding and form a key part of your University experience. However, sometimes relationships and relationship breakdowns can put a lot of strain on you.

Relationships

A healthy relationship is one where both people are happy and feel that their needs are being met. If you don’t feel that your partner is respecting your needs or feelings, it is important to discuss this with them. They may not be aware of how you feel and may be quite willing to work to change things if they understand that things are not working for you as they stand. If they are not willing to consider their behaviour’s impact on you, you might want to re-evaluate the relationship and whether it is something that you want to continue. 

Abuse, whether it is physical or verbal, is something that no one should have to tolerate. It can affect anyone, of any gender, and is always serious. For information on confidential support available to you, as well as various online resources, have a look at the page on domestic and sexual violence.

Relationship breakdowns

The end of a relationship, whether it was your decision or not, can be one of the hardest things anyone has to go through, particularly when you’re expected to continue to juggle responsibilities including your studies, work and caring for others. It is completely normal to feel down and alone following a relationship breakup so make sure you give yourself time to acknowledge any feelings of loss you may have. It is important at this time to give yourself both time on your own and time with friends. Talking to others may help you to deal with the emotions you are experiencing and to begin to think about moving on from the relationship. Getting over a failed relationship can take different people different lengths of time, but if you feel withdrawn and upset for a prolonged period of time or feel that you need to speak to someone confidentially, contact the University’s Counselling Service for free one-to-one counselling sessions.

You may also find the Relate website useful.